The Parable of the Four Wives

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The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints

I Loved You Most

Once upon a time, There was a rich merchant who had 4 wives. He loved the 4th wife the most and adorned her with rich robes and treated her to delicacies. He took great care of her & gave her nothing but the best.

He also loved the 3rd wife very much. He’s very proud of her and always wanted to show off her to his friends. However, the merchant is always in fear that she might run away with some other men.

He too, loved his 2nd wife. She is a very considerate person, always patient & in fact is the merchant’s confidante. Whenever the merchant faced some problems, he always turned to his 2nd wife. She would always help him out and tide him through difficult times. Now, the merchant’s 1st wife is a very loyal partner and has made great contributions in maintaining his wealth and business as well as taking care of the household. However, the merchant did not love the 1st wife and although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her.

One day, the merchant fell ill. Before long, he knew that he was going to die soon. He thought of his luxurious life and told himself, “Now I have 4 wives with me. But when I die, I would be alone. How lonely I would be!“

Thus, he asked the 4th wife, “I loved you most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. NOW that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?“

“No way!“ replied the 4th wife and she walked away without another word. Answer cut like a sharp knife right into the merchant’s heart.

The sad merchant then asked the 3rd wife, “I have loved you so much for all my life. NOW that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?“

“No!“ replied the 3rd wife. “Life is so good over here! I’m going to remarry when you die!” The merchant’s heart sank and turned cold.

He then asked the 2nd wife, “I always turned to you for help and you’ve always helped me out. Now I need your help again. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?“

“I’m sorry, I can’t help you out this time!“ replied the 2nd wife.” “At the very most, I can only send you to your grave.“

Answer came like a bolt of thunder & merchant was devastated.

Then a voice called out… “I’ll leave with you. I would follow you no matter where you go.“

The merchant looked up and there was his 1st wife. She was so skinny, almost like she suffered from malnutrition.

Greatly grieved, the merchant said, “I should have taken much better care of you while I could have!“

Actually, we all have 4 wives in our lives. Among the Four Wives, The 4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good, it would leave us when we die.

Our 3rd wife is our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, they all go to others.

The 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how close they had been there for us when we’re alive, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave.

The 1st wife is in fact our soul, often neglected in our pursuit of material wealth & sensual pleasure.

Guess what? It is actually the only thing that follows us wherever we go. Perhaps it’s a good idea to cultivate and strengthen it now rather than to wait until we’re on our deathbed to lament.

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